When A Guy Doesn't Text You Back Immediately

J H

I have a question for women. Is this what you really do? Like have a conversation with your friends about the guy you’re talking to? If so I think you misunderstand men. I’m not being disrespectful. I’m definitely not a MGTOW woman hater. Those guys are losers. I honestly just want us to understand each other better. For reference I’m 36, married, 1 kid. Here’s the thing.

Many times I’ve heard women say things like “he just doesn’t get it” or “how does he not know that’s not what I want”, as if pleasing you is our goal, and we’re failing at it. The problem is you’re looking at it from the perspective of a woman. In my observation most women SEEK a relationship. Finding mister right is a GOAL.

Finding a wife or girlfriend is not our goal. It’s something that comes around, and not typically something we deliberately go out and get. We NEVER sit around daydreaming about the perfect relationship. We day dream about our careers, hobbies, and where we want to go in life. A woman is an add on to our lives, not the focus.

I’ve never in my life sat down with a friend and had a deep dive into the girl I’m seeing. EVER. With men it’s “can’t hang out tomorrow I’m going on a date” “She cute?” “Yeah, pretty cute” “Nice”. That’s it it’s over.

So the dude your seeing isn’t stupid. He isn’t oblivious to what you want him to do. He knows you’re not going to like something before he does it. He simply sees no incentive to change his behavior to please you. If you don’t like him you can leave. If he’s kind of a dick he probably has goals and ambitions on his mind instead of making you happy. The guys that strive to make you happy do so because they have nothing else going for them. That’s why you’re not attracted to them.

Eventually he’ll fall into a relationship with a girl that’s compatible enough, and settle down. Compatible enough is good enough for us because we’re not looking to a woman to make us happy. We get fulfillment from elsewhere.